Decreasing bullying – step by step
Confidence…sometimes you gotta fake it to make it!
One thing I am going to suggest, when taking action to stop your bullies, is to start with them before going over their heads. Have you ever been told by someone else that they don’t like your behaviour or something you’ve said? It is exactly like that.
None of us are perfect and it isn’t a given quality to be able to see something from someone else’s point of view, particularly when people operate on such a varying spectrum of self-expression from those that drop heavy hints in non-verbal communication while being perfectly polite and saying the complete opposite to what their bodies are saying. It can be very confusing when you pick up conflicting signals from people, so we all have to allow others and ourselves to speak up.
Just two days ago I thought about what confidence meant in terms of behaviour. Ideally, this book can give you confidence if you want it to. I can write what I like but the genius of any book is the reader, not the writer.
To me, a confident person would say and do what they want. Don’t worry for now about how good a person might be. For a skeletal guide: a “confidence trickster” has probably got an agenda that will not work in your favour.
Someone who is confident, such as my recently deceased Dad, would not worry about what other people think of him, will say what they mean and mean what they say, will not say what people want to hear or treat people like fragile idiots who are going to going to get upset by their truth. We are all responsible for our feelings and thoughts. We can conduct these so that whatever other people are doing or saying, we are not affected by it.