How To Be Bully Proof

How to Be Free of Bullies

We all have an ego

Ego

You may meet egocentric people wherever you go

We all have an ego. However your ego can get in the way when you are being bullied. Imagine hearing whatever a bully said and thinking to yourself ‘so what?’.

This phrase shows indifferent to however you are being treated or spoken to and is very difficult to respond to. It is no good, of course, when a bully is holding you by the neck against the wall to look at your toes and squeak out a faintly audible ‘’so what?”

That is why I suggest thinking it first. Tell your mind that everything being said or done to you doesn’t mean anything. It’s not personal. When you can really feel it respond to the bully with a bold ‘So what?’ and see what their reaction is.

Bothered

If you are facing cyber-bullying, this would also be a useful response, to whatever is being said to you. In fact the word ‘whatever’ works pretty well too.  Think of Katherine Tate’s character Lauren and how she tries far too hard to persuade everyone that ‘she’s not bothered and how unconvincing she is.

The following idea might be fun. Observe what people who bully do that makes you feel worst or particularly pushes your buttons and ask yourself what you don’t like about what they said or did. OK, the fun bit is yet to come. Has anyone ever replied to you with ‘whatever’? How did it make you feel about what you just said to them?

Arch-bishops

Whatever is one of the arch-bishops of sarcasm, in my opinion.  How easy did you find it to think of something to say next? Here’s the fun bit. Notice what your bully does that you most dislike and say it to them instead of trying to reason with them or say anything else. The exchange will probably end when you have just started to enjoy it! I don’t suggest imitating them as that tends to make people look a bit silly.

If you are an executive director of a large firm, school playground behaviour won’t serve you well (am indulging in a comedy tangent here as I know you don’t need to be told this). Particularly where work hierarchies are involved, the above suggestion would probably be unsuitable for a professional environment. I will look at workplace bullying in a later chapter as it’s not pleasant spending all that time in work with people who are nasty to be around, so you might need to consider wider options rather than just your response.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Recent Posts: Dairy of A Nonny Moose

Why Ideology is Like a Virus and Needs Community Leadership to Oppose

Like a virus, the spread of ideology relies on transmission among the community. Society is made up of various groups and has been since the dawn of time. We have a minority of thought leaders known as innovators and they are followed by Early Adopters. Trumpism and Brexit, like Nazi Germany, have relied on the […]

Had UK Government Put Public Interests First, Might We Have Averted Disaster

Had UK Government Put Public Interests First, Might We Have Averted Disaster

Boris Johnson’s Government’s focus seems to have been on big corporation interests from the start of the COVID-19 outbreak, thinking they could “flatten the curve” after contact tracing and quarantining had been dropped. After John Newton predicted a million cases, the government abandoned its contact tracing in favour of a 3-4 month national lockdown. Could […]

Creativity Will Always Be Important for Humanity

I’ve felt for years the western world, particularly, is making it increasingly difficult for visual thinkers to survive. Creative people tend to be solution finders, problem solvers, thinkers, observers, investigators and inventors. This might mean that creative people design their own processes into their work. Therefore following a new unfamiliar process on its own is […]

Voyage of Discovery about Nutrition

Almost finished Tim Spector’s book Spoonfed, which is a detailed overview of human nutrition from a GP and nutritional scientist’s perspective. If only every GP needed to study nutrition as Tim Spector has. Spector’s book demystifies every area of the modern diet from gluten, animal and plant protein, gluten, fibre, caffeine, alcohol, water and shows […]

We Must Keep Our Wits About Us

I watched #Brexit – An Uncivil War on Netflix last night and thought: how easy society is to manipulate. How can we feel ourselves being boiled like frogs? How did Michael Gove, Dominic Cummings end up in parliament and Nigel Farage become an MEP. The reasonable thinking that existed up til 2016, fought for by […]

%d bloggers like this: