There is a very simple thread to the theory I am using to define bullying. Bullying is one specific behaviour, whatever scale it happens on or in whichever style it is delivered. All acts of bullying share some simple characteristics. My job here is to define those characteristics to guide you in this book’s most crucial task, which is so you can learn to identify when you are being bullied.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, as you might not believe me. Bullying is not personal. It has the pernicious ability to seem to be very personal, as the bully requires a scapegoat and therefore has become adept at one thing only: to identify what someone is sensitive about. The only way they find these sensitive issues is by using the scatter gun approach. There is nothing too sophisticated in a bully’s research methods. The lines of attack are dictated by the sensitivities of the receiver, not by the opinions of the deliverer. Jealousy often plays a part in the motivation for someone to bully another person.
People say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. I say bullying is the lowest form of communication. In my book (this one) bullying falls below pulling faces in the communication leader board. It can be easier to recognise characteristics in other people when they exist in ourselves. Everyone who gets bullied will display bullying behaviour. I would give inanimate objects a very hard time when I was younger. If I had thought about how unpleasant I was being to a table or a door frame that had just jumped out at me and bruised my arm, I might have been able to tell when people were being unpleasant to me.
In February 2020, I was feeling a little drowsy. As a person who takes an extremely keen interest in keeping healthy – I’ll illustrate why in a bit – I could not believe that the message that we do not get enough sunlight to make vitamin D, which we need to make calcium, over the […]
In December 2019, I was getting cold feet about an entrepreneurship course at university, which I had just dicovered was full time, Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm with 4 weeks holiday time, which needed to be agreed in advance. This was daunting as this only came up at the interview stage, so I […]
Some are shackled, others are imprisoned, few are free. This is not animals in a zoo, it is us humans. All we need right now is self-awareness and self-acceptance. This blog will describe a way to achieve these and why they are very important to a good quality of life. Think of Nelson Mandela in […]
Do you remember feeling sick on family holiday holidays as a child? Were you cautious about the milk in France or Spain? Did it taste funny? Did you have a constantly runny nose throughout your school days? Today, one-size-fits-all diet advice is causing a huge amount of chaos. People of all different sizes, ages, women […]
Like a virus, the spread of ideology relies on transmission among the community. Society is made up of various groups and has been since the dawn of time. We have a minority of thought leaders known as innovators and they are followed by Early Adopters. Trumpism and Brexit, like Nazi Germany, have relied on the […]
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