How To Be Bully Proof

How to Be Free of Bullies

Characteristics that are likely to appear in any form or scale of bullying

Here are the characteristics shown in completely fictional (typical from my childhood) incident above, which are likely to appear in any form or scale of bullying:

  • The choice of target is made entirely on the bully meeting its needs of off-loading. It is not personal. It is not about the target. The only thing the bully needs for the receptacle for its bullying is the right reaction from the target. The reaction is one that makes the bully feel powerful and in control.
  • Impotence in the bully.
  • The target has more strength than the bully. The more strength the target has (in the bully’s mind) the better the bully feels having power and control over the target during the course of bullying.
  • What the bully says is made-up rubbish, snatched from their own mind entirely for effect on the target. If one line of attack doesn’t work, the bully will move onto another one. It doesn’t matter if the different lines of attack contradict each other. The bully just needs to find what the target is sensitive about. The only truth found in what the bully says would be about the bully, not the target.
  • All the bully is doing is dumping. Dumping is another good word for bullying, as it describes the off-loading of any rubbish, waste, or unwanted feelings or emotions, upset, annoyance, pain or frustration.
  • What the bully wants is a reaction. The stronger the target (as in the chair being not alive, it is going to appear very difficult to get anything but indifference until the chair is broken) the more power and control the bully thinks they can achieve.

 

There are forms of bullying that are very hard to spot. However, they still share these pathetically futile characteristics. For one reason, these forms of bullying might be so deeply ingrained in society or even law such as gender imbalances in pay for equal work, that a particular kind of response is needed for the person to not be a target for it.

 

You may ask, how can women having less legal rights than men, for example, be simply bullying? Men en masse aren’t trying to off-load on women. This does provoke an even more acute definition of bullying, yes.

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