How to Not Let Bullies Get What They Want
Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed a rise in stories about people who got the chance to bite back at someone who had bullied them in the past.
It seems difficult to image this world that various campaigns seem to be fighting towards, in which people bully less.
It seems to me that the damaging effect of bullying can be reduced and in so doing, bullying becomes more difficult to carry out when more of their targets learn how to free themselves from the destructive cycle.
Countless reports of real life incidents and fictional film stories follow a similar line, it seems. They never seem to portray a world in which incidents of bullying are reduced. I’ve never read about a school or workplace that have successfully implemented a system in which a reduction of bullying has been shown in their environment.
Surely bullying is part of ancient natural make up to:
* Forestall future problems or threats.
* Increase our status.
* Gain power over others.
People aren’t going to stop doing any of those, it seems, any time soon.
Why can’t we accept bullying as part of the fabric of society and learn ways to not be so effected by it? My suggestion on other parts of this blog is that bullying follows a much more basic pattern then people can imagine. While the nature of the incidence, the size and frequency of occurrence can vary greatly,
Surely looking for similarities is always more useful than looking for variations?
Here is a story which appeared in the press recently: Louisa Manning managed to hit back at her school bully after he asked her out on a date.