How To Be Bully Proof

How to Be Free of Bullies

Scape goating

Unfortunately, bullying can come from any direction. It can be a parent, sibling or member of your family, anyone with authority over you such as a teacher or prefect, your boss or a policeman. It could be a colleague. It could easily be your partner. It could be a stranger in a car or on the telephone when you call up to get help from a service provider. The task here is to identify bullying in its simplest form.

  • It is not personal or about you. It is about the bully.
  • It is someone’s need for power and control.
  • Things said in a bullying context are not fact, they are at best assumed opinion.
  • The bully only wants a reaction. That is all.

You will be bullied by almost anyone if you react to or are uncomfortable with tension in others. In this case you may even conjure up bullying behaviour because people don’t always know when they are tense or stressed. If you tend to find yourself become the scapegoat in lots of different situations, then the first thing you need to focus on here is learning to not be the scapegoat.

It is worth mentioning here that in psychology, most groups require a scapegoat. In my theory, the scapegoat is the same as a Release Valve. It is a person who sends themself to the sacrifice table in social groups, as if to die to save everyone else. Unfortunately, a group that needs a scapegoat will have a failed harvest on a regular basis, so it is a waste to sacrifice yourself.  If you find yourself doing this, take a look at the situation and apply my suggestions.

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